Another Thursday has arrived. How quickly do the weeks go? This week as I’m in recovery mode, I’ve had lots of time to think. What’s been going around and around in that beautiful little brain I hear you ask, simple- the same thing I’ve been thinking about a lot over the last months.
There’s quite a back story which lead me to a little moment of ‘ah huh!’, but we ain’t journeying through that decade of thought today (phew- I hear you say?). Rather I’ll say that the questioning eventually leads me to this- I’m not responsible for making other people happy, I’m not responsible for others making decisions that lead them to states of unhappy. I’m not even guilty of being uncaring if they ask you for advice and choose another way and end up in the valleys of unhappy.
However what I am responsible for is asking myself the question ARE YOU HAPPY and if not, ask the follow up what are you( being me for me and you for you ?)going to do about it.
So like most things in life there’s not a simple answer, it’s all relative to circumstances, experiences wants, desires, beliefs, etc. But here’s the challenge- if you’re not happy- you are responsible for what you do about that. Do you accept unhappiness and make others around you gloomier by your sunless perspective or do you question what’s going to create an unhappy reality and do something in response to that information.
Please hear me here- I’m talking about happiness and not joy- joy is a fruit of the Spirit and overflow from the power and love of God dwelling within your life. And no joy- no fruit is not the topic I’m hitting on. But when I think about happy- I think it’s almost an unconscious result and response to what’s going on in your life (sure they are interchangeable and even overlapping but stick with me please).
You can be joyful in difficult situations but you can’t be happy in unhappy times. You can, however, see what can shift in your world, to move you from unhappy to happy. But to do that you might first need to have a coffee and sit for a bit with the questions we often hate- you know the ones- that get you thinking and confronting the deep things of life.
So boil that kettle, ask those tough questions and discover where you sit on the happy meter. Then decide what you’re going to do about it.
For me- I’m going to continue to ask the question, followed by the next and sit with God about what’s on my heart to do, be and see. And that plan- it makes me happy, especially to be doing it with Him
…. better go …. a song coming on….. a bizarre medley really ?
Republished with permission. First published on sozotalk.wordpress.com on 22nd June 2017