Last week I posted about being obsessively grateful, (you check out that post here:sure enough, another circumstance arose to check out if I was serious about it). I call it the push back – you may call it something else, but I’m sure you are familiar with it. That thing that happens, is said, or you see which asks deep within you ‘do you really mean what you said. Believed. Decided. Are you really convinced its true?’
But, the push back makes you stronger, and more resolved, especially if you see it for what it is – a distraction. When we allow our stuff, the feelings and thoughts to ebb and flow, rise and fall (and all those other sayings) according to the circumstances in our world, and the world, we end up tossed and turned and bounded about in the ocean of life. James puts it beautifully (although confronting ha-ha)
James 1: 2-6
Dear brothers and sisters, when trouble comes you way consider it an opportunity for great joy.
For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.
So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete and needing nothing.
If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.
But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone. Do not waver, for a person with divided loyalty is an unsettled as a wave of the sea that is blown and tossed in the wind.
Life happens. Ready or not, it happens. The good. Bad. Ugly. Challenging. Joyous. Fun. Hilarious. Sad. Happy. Full purse. And the empty back account. And so much more. But just cause life ebbs and flows, doesn’t mean you have to, you can remain steady in a tumultuous climate. So my question today is – what is your stabilizer? Or, should I say who?
It might be your husband, wife, friend, parent, mentor or leader, or pastor. No matter how strong they are, they too will experience a season where they cannot be your stabilizer, it’s not because they are lacking ~ but because they are not designed to be that. We are to help carry another’s burden (Gal 6:2), but not the entire weight of their life, decisions, emotions and everything else that life involves. Nor should they have to really – we each have been given the ability and gift of choice. The choice to how we live our lives, what we will accept as status quo and what we will embrace, to change when we can no longer live with.
But hey, the good news is that there is one, who can withstand the waves of the world and be your stabilizer. You just have to want Him to be and let Him in navigate life. I’ve heard people say that we give God the keys of our car (of life so to speak) when we ask Him into our lives, but that implies that we step out and sit by the beach sunbaking. To me my relationship with God is like having the perfect navigator (way better than google maps or a Navman)to guides me. I get to choose if I listen to the guidance given, hear that, He loves me enough to let me decide when I want to listen to Him – that’s some trust He has in me. When I don’t, I end up needing to make a u-tune (He knows not only what is best for me, but He, only wants the best for me). Sometimes the road seems to be hard terrain, but He says, you can get thru it, keep going.
For me, when the push back comes, I remember that I have the best navigator in the world, doing life with me and making the impossible terrain possible. I love that I get to do life with God, and the great news is that He is happy to do life with us all.
Happy Pondering xx
Republished with permission. First published on sozotalk.wordpress.com on 26th October 2016